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Menopause in the Media

Mar 25, 2015
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Two women staring in shock at TV with the third covering her eyes

Dealing With Menopause in the Media

I received an email this week from a German friend who had heard I was having some medical issues related to my menopause. She wrote with sympathy for my symptoms but added: "I love my menopause. She is my best friend."

What a refreshing view of this time of life, which is generally spoken of in doom-laden tones. Mostly in the media menopausal women are portrayed as psychotic, depressed, frumpy and almost asexual, and my friend's cheery words made me feel that those of us going through it should do more to change the view that menopause is something negative to be endured.

I was worried about turning 40, dreading it even, but another friend who had already reached that milestone told me she relished the birthday – had decided to finally be happy, and comfortable in her own skin. I took that on board, followed her lead and sure enough with the right attitude I turned my mood around and embraced the new, more secure me.

Being Comfortable in My Skin

It's all about positive thinking. It's understandable to not feel sexy when the media and popular culture is telling you that you are over the hill, barren, a hag. But all you have to do is reappraise what sexy is in this period of your life. Take the first signs of perimenopause or menopause as a prompt to re-evaluate how you look, what you believe, and how you feel. Take your cue from your heart and your gut feeling, not the TV.

Maybe it's time for a make-over, in your wardrobe, make-up bag or even your whole life. Just as when you were in your teens you abandoned outfits and behaviours from your childhood and looked forward to adult life, your menopause years are a time to think again about what you really want from the rest of your days here on Earth.

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    Part of the problem is that menopause in the Western world is largely treated like an illness or a disease, something to medicate. And while it's OK to seek out or accept help from your healthcare provider if you want to, it's equally OK to handle your symptoms homoeopathically, alternatively or just accept them as your new way of being.

    When I was pregnant my husband always used to coax me along (and sometimes tease me) with the phrase: "It's not an illness you know." And he was right. So why do we use the menopause as an excuse to avoid sex, excuse our appearance and our lack of energy or drive? Because we are conditioned to, that's why.

    Many women suffer alone, too embarrassed to share what they are experiencing with even close friends or family. It's like admitting that we are "suffering" equates to failure. The menopause can make us feel powerless, uneasy, too aware of the passing years.

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    Afra Willmore
    Afra is a former print journalist, news editor and award-winning feature writer turned online content editor, radio presenter and pro-blogger. Writing under the name MadMumOf7 she is — you guessed it! — a mother of seven, and dealing with menopause. See all of Afra's articles
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