Divorce Diminishers
- Have fun in the relationship. Relationships begin heading for disaster when fun takes a backseat to trying to win arguments. Without fun, hostility builds and grudges continue. Without fun, the simple misunderstanding blows up into a major conflict. To regain fun, try some of the activities you enjoyed together previously. Since these already have pleasurable associations, it will be easy to fall back into positive routines. Begin to add new adventures and activities into the repertoire. These will add hope for growth and opportunity in the future.
- Have fun outside of the relationship. Becoming too immersed and involved in one relationship leaves you dependent on that other person for your happiness and well-being. Avoid putting all of your eggs in basket by diversifying your social outings. Spending more time with friends and family will recharge your batteries and clear out some anger. Go to dinner. Go to the movies or out for a walk to keep the romance alive. With this, you can return to the relationship with a fresh perspective and renewed motivation to improve your status. Even if this tip does not improve the relationship directly, it will boost your mood and self-esteem by spending time with your supports.
- Sometimes people put too much pressure on the relationship. In your attempts to solve problems or force closeness, you can actually do more bad than good. Check in with yourself and your husband. Maybe this afternoon, this day or this week is not a good time to have a conversation or do something fun. Maybe your menopause symptoms are too strong to ignore. Take a break from the relationship to focus on you. This does not mean that he has to sleep in a motel or even the couch. It only means that you are pausing the issue to address later. Be sure to make time for it later, though. Issues that you leave unresolved for too long will fester into bigger problems down the road.
What about the Husbands
No. The guys do not get a free pass on this issue. They are just as responsible for the well-being of the relationship as you are. The good news is that all the tips above apply to the men in your life. Work on the steps together with transparency so both of your know where you stand in the relationship. Encourage your husband to learn more about menopause without any negative preconceived notions. Choose a time to separate when there is lack of progress and come back in one hour or one day.
Conclusion
Perimenopause and the time around menopause is a period of great shifting and transitions in the life of a woman. Acknowledge menopause and the other aspects adding stress to your life. From there, take steps grounded in assertive communication to aid the marriage. With hard work, your mate can be your best teammate.
